In the first part of this 2-part video, we learn more about the “domestication” of man and how all the rules and values of our family and society are imposed on us by a system of punishment and reward. As little children, it is our true nature to love and be happy, to explore and enjoy life; We are absolutely authentic. But then we learn to be what others think we should be, and because it`s not normal for us to be what we are, we start pretending to be what we aren`t. When we are teenagers, we have learned to judge ourselves, to punish ourselves and to reward ourselves according to agreements we have never chosen. The four agreements help us break self-limiting agreements and replace them with agreements that bring us freedom, happiness and love. If you did your best and your inner judge is trying to judge you, you replied, “I did my best.” There are no regrets. That`s why we always do our best. It`s not an easy deal to stick to, but this deal will really set you free. All four deals© were released in 1997 and have sold about 9 million times. It`s been on the New York Times bestseller list for nearly a decade. Everything we do is based on agreements we have made – agreements with ourselves, with other people, with God, with life.
But the most important agreements are those that we encounter ourselves. If you break an agreement, start again tomorrow and the next day. It will be difficult at first, but every day will be easier and easier until the day you discover that you govern your life with the Four Accords. And you`ll be surprised how your life has changed. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made, how they lead to suffering, and why individuals should not participate in them. . . .